Everything that happens in her world happens as a result of decisions she makes.

I dont think the other mommys there agreed with it being abuse, though what they described as spanking was a few swats on the clothes with paddle, spoon, brush or hand.

I didnt want to spank with an implement, but wanted the spankings to be equally firm, so I decided to use my hand on my childrens bare bottom.

We only spank at my house if it is really necessary and then it will be one swat on the bare bottem.

I have never spanked my children with anything besides our hand.

That is enough. They know if they are going to be spanked they did something pretty bad.

I feel that too many moms are trying to be more like their kids friends than like their parent.

The parent of a child should decide how the child is to be punished as they know what is best for the child.

A few swats with a switch is easy on the hand and safe for the child.

The expert on this is Mike and Debi Pearl they have a site called Nogreaterjoy.com and they have written some great articles on child training.

Dottie.

Spanking on the bare bottom is definitely not sexual abuse although I think youd want to discontinue pulling down the pants once a child gets old enough to feel modest about their nakedness.

Liz my child knows that when she misbehaves she will get a spanking if the offence is severe.

Theyre practically giving themselves the inevitable spanking if they then do misbehave.

My husband and I are fosteradoptive parents so we are not allowed by the state to use any form of corporal punishments (including spanking), yelling, name calling, predicting (youll never amount to anything), or any form of humiliation (including stripping a child).

With all the traditional means of discipline forbidden weve had to get creative.

I read most of the books on the recommended reading list and found two I felt were essential.

The first is Love and Logic, the second, How to Listen So Your Kids Will Talk, and Talk So Your Kids Will Listen.

Love and Logic is a style of parenting that teaches your child how to think.

What Ive learned is that when Im feeling overwhelmed it means Ive taken on too much and need to make some of my problems my childs problems.

Ive learned how to tell when I need to take a time out.

Ive learned how to make sure my own needs, as a human being, are met.

What this does for our child is teach her that Mommy and Daddy are people, too, who need to be taken care of.

When people spank theyll often say, This hurts me, more than it hurts you.

I dont feel guilty disciplining and my child doesnt feel resentful.

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